The Juicy Woman

Cancel and Replace Negative Self Talk With Positive Anchors

In yesterday's post, I discussed how the Air Force uses anchoring to keep the flight teams committed. You can use this same method to reinforce new habits that will support you to respect and accept your body, eat intuitively and make daily incremental changes that will assist you to lose weight without dieting.

Becoming an intuitive eater is a process that requires being able to think differently and to expand your world beyond black and white thinking that is so commonly aligned with the diet mentality.

Anchor Good Feelings To Achieve Goals Effortlessly

This past week I left town with my family to visit my step daughter, Janelle. She is in the Air Force and she was recently promoted to the rank of Tech Sargeant. I'm so tickled with pride.

My husband, Angel, our son, PT and our daughter Cara and Janelle's mom, my friend, Lucy were all on hand and present to support and cheer Janelle on for her enormous accomplishment.

The ceremony took place in a large auditorium on base. First we heard a few speeches and then the proceedings began. As each of the candidates' names were called, they stepped on the stage and stood between two of their superior officers. If their family members were present, they were asked to stand on either side of the candidate.

To Boost Your Self Esteem and Lose Weight: Be a Hug Bug

Are you a woman who is overweight and feeling uncomfortable in your body? Does that bad feeling cause you to hide and stay away from other people, avoiding relationships and keep to yourself? It's understandable that you would think logically that would be a solution to feeling badly but it's not.

By continually staying home and hiding, you are damaging your self esteem and reinforcing a negative body image. If you want to feel better, it is helpful to spend time around people who love and support you.

According to Virginia Satir, the well loved, highly respected and world renowned pioneer of family therapy, she noted that there are certain behaviors that people with a high self esteem share in common.

Physical Change Begins In Your Mind When You Take the First Step By Thinking Differently

After I finished reading Tammy Bechtel's book, "Mind-Body Connection: The Art of Language for Weight Loss, I became more aware of what was going on in my own head relative to my body.

I realized that I had shied away from activity since I sprained my ankle and pulled a muscle last year. I had to admit to myself that I had utterly convinced my brain that I couldn't be active again. That stinking thinking had led me to become very sedentary and dare I say, lazy.

As a consequence of being less active, I had put on extra weight and had begun to accept this new body shape of mine which led to my devloping a bit of a belly which was once foreign and unheard of for me. I used to think that having an accentuated pear shape was the worst of my body image problems. Then I started believing that I had a huge potbelly and holding that thinking and visual imagery has seemed to me to be the fuel that has caused it to expand more with each passing day.

Boosting Your Self Esteem: Avoiding the Last Piece of Burnt Toast

Years ago when I was a child I used to enjoy spending Wednesday nights with my Nana and Grandpa. It was such a special time for me and I adored being with both of them.

In the mornings, Nana would make breakfast for Grandpa and I. Our meal usually consisted of eggs, toast, juice and milk. Typically there would be one piece of toast that was darker or a bit more burnt than the rest. My Nana always used to give Grandpa and I the ‘good’ pieces and she took the burnt one and I remember watching her stand by the kitchen sink and scrape the burnt part off of her toast. Occasionally she would just take a bite out of the toast without scraping it.

Don't Take It Personally: You're Not Responsible For Other People's Bad Moods

Have you ever felt responsible for someone else’s moods? Last week my husband was in a bad mood. In the past, I would have allowed that to really bug me and it would have niggled at me until I felt convinced that I hadn’t done anything to cause his bad mood. Not only that, but I would have also used that as an excuse to give me permission to eat all the food in the house that wasn't nailed down just so that I could get a quick fix of comfort and feel that I wasn’t at fault.

Lately as I continue to study NLP and achieve mastery over language, I am realizing more each day that we choose our feelings based on what we accept as our thinking. That means that I don’t have to be responsible for anyone else’s feeling but my own. That’s become very liberating and it has enhanced my every relationship.

Mind/Body Connection: The Art of Language for Weight Loss

Recently I finished reading a brilliant book by a woman named Tammy Bechtel. The title of the book is Mind-Body Connection: The Art of Language for Weight Loss.

In addition to being an author, Tammy is an expert communicator connecting the mind to the body as it relates to who you are being about weight loss. She also does one on one consultations and presentations.

In her book, "Mind-Body Connection: The Art of Language for Weight Loss", Tammy mentions many ways that our language inhibits our ability to lose weight. She believes that if we are always thinking fat, then we will never be thin. She says that we create our own realities in our minds about how we are being and consequently what we do depends upon what we think about ourselves and that affects how we relate to the world.

Emotional Rescue Eating: Are You A Rescuer?

Last week something happened to a family member of mine that was quite upsetting. The phone rang late at night with another family member asking me for help. Not quite awake, I screened the call and let the machine pick it up. The situation sounded chaotic. Later I replayed the message that was left on the answering machine and I kept asking myself, Can I really be of any help? I sat and pondered the question for several minutes, before I took action. I realized that I could not do anything to change the circumstances. The situation at hand was the result of consequences and choices that were finally bearing out for someone I love. As much as I didn't like it, I couldn’t change anything.

Like so many women, I’ve been raised with the belief that women are the caregivers, the nurturers, the fixer uppers. I thought a kiss on a boo boo would make everything better so for years I stuck my nose in many situations where it didn’t belong. That led to a life filled with chaos for me. I used to get in the middle of everything. When one of my friends got divorced, I felt so badly for her that I began to cause a rift in my own marriage. When several of my family members made choices that put them in awkward and uncomfortable positions, I was always attempting to turn things around and make it better for them, always looking to save everyone and cushion the blow. That kind of thinking led me to being a miserable person always seeking the comfort that food would give me.

Resistant To Tapping? Support Program For Gals Who Hate Tapping

Despite knowing that tapping really works, I've been getting feedback from many of my clients that they are not using their EFT skills.

To be honest, I’ve also been resistant to doing my own tapping as many of my other clients have. This is a problem that has frustrated me for awhile. It has led me on a quest to seek out a solution to the problem not only for my clients but also for myself.

Recently I stuck gold and found something that will work. I'd like to share it with you.

Support Program Available For Gals Struggling with Intuitive Eating

This morning I finally stepped on the scale after what must have been a 4 month hiatus from my daily habit of weighing myself. The number wasn’t shocking in fact I already knew it, down to the pound; 198.

Before I began the Intuitive Eating process without using any energy coaching, tapping or visualization, it was 177. That means that in 10 months of just eating what I wanted whenever I wanted it cost me a full 20 pound gain. Looking back in retrospect, I see that as an investment and I wouldn’t change the experience of freedom from dieting for the world. Today I have more control with my eating than ever before. I can trust myself around all foods and I credit Intuitive Eating with that.