The Juicy Woman

Sex and The Juicy Woman

Sex. What kinds of images does the word conjure up for you? Is it something that you like to think about? Does it make you feel ashamed or dirty? What images or memories come up for you when you think about sex? Do you feel sexy? Do you think about feeling good all over and reveling in your juiciness or does it make you want to run screaming to the refrigerator to grab a pint of ice cream and hide for a week? That used to be my response.

As The Juicy Woman, I'll share with you honestly and tell you that for a long time throughout my 18 year marriage, I wasn't so buzzed about sex, especially when my weight was top of mind. As long as I was obsessing about my weight, I was always worried about what my husband must be thinking about my body, how I looked, and all the negative soul destroying things that any woman can think of to make herself absolutely miserable.

As a result, it was no surprise that I was always tired or too busy, had a headache, stressed or just plain 'not in the mood.' I kind of thought of sex as a chore and myself as a cold fish, maybe even a frigid woman. I lived in so much fear constantly that I'd kill the love that I had with my husband because I couldn't stop obsessing about how inadequate and unattractive I felt.

I put so many labels on myself it wasn't funny. All because I hated my body. As a result of being constantly bombarded by my own inner critic, comparing myself to other women, and obsessing on my fat, my anger slithered out and threatened to destroy my happy marriage. In August of 2006 I made a decision that changed everything and I'd like to share my discoveries with you.

Recently I was interviewed in the August 11, First for Women Magazine on page 44 and I shared how I transformed my sex life with a change of thinking and a decision to say goodbye to dieting. If you'd like to read the article, you can pick it up at your local grocery check out counter throughout the US.

To get the real skinny, which is the article behind the article that wasn't printed, you can become a member of my Juicy Woman Forum. It's the best place to be on the internet to learn how to make peace with food and love the skin you're in. Hope to touch base with you soon. Come visit my website. I've got lots of goodies in store for you. Stay tuned.

What'cha Eatin' for Breakfast Today?

On July 3, I rolled by the Fitness Magazine Online Community and I answered the question, "What do you typically eat for breakfast?" My answer was a bit different from the other responses which were more like 1/2 cup of cereal, tea, yogurt, or dry toast, oatmeal, all that kind of diet-y stuff.

It made me think of when I used to be on Weight Watchers and I had all these rules about what to eat and when I should/could have breakfast.

I remember that if I woke up too early, I'd agonize watching the clock, praying for the time to come when I would normally have breakfast, because I couldn't possibly stand having more hours in the day when I had to wait to eat. That meant that I would feel deprived longer than if my day were shorter. Ha, I even remember going to sleep early as a strategy on the night before weigh in at Weight Watchers in an effort to curb my appetite and avoid craving foods that would show up on the scale the next day. Yessirre, I played all the games. I invented them. Now thankfully that craziness is over. Now I eat what I want, when I want it, and I'm no longer governed by what I should be eating. No more dieting for me. How about you? Would you dare to have a bowl of spinach linguine with butter and cheese for breakfast. I did! - And that day the next time that I got hungry or even thought about food was about 10 hours later. I didn't want the dinner that my husband had made. I just wanted a small dish of Baskin Robbins Mint Chip ice cream.

So how about you? What will you be eating for breakfast today? It's nearly 9:30 in the morning now, and I'm not even really hungry yet. How do you decide what you want to eat? Leave a comment and let me know.. and if you're a gal wanting to ditch the diet and learn how to get slimmer without dieting and love the skin you're in, then come and join my Juicy Woman Forum.

A Test of Strength: It's When Things Seem Worst that You Mustn't Quit

I’ve been out of the loop for awhile. For those of you who know me, you know that I’m facing some personal stuff that drags on my coat tails and threatens to pull me back in the past, a place where I was once a very disempowered and easily intimidated gal, not at all The Juicy Woman I’ve become.

The situation that I face is not unlike many of you who have learned how to assert yourselves and know that we teach people how to treat us so that means sometimes we need to reteach old dogs new tricks. The problem is that some people in your life can’t and won’t accept you in any way other than how they want to see you. That often means either breaking that tie or continuing to push the square peg into the round hole.

I’m tired of pushing my peg and hoping for those corners to round themselves out. It’s too much work so it’s time to let go of parts of my past.

I’ve decided that it’s in my best interest to sever the tie and accept the loss. I won’t kid you, it hurts like hell and parts of me feel lost and so sad, but I have made the right decision. My heart tells me so.

I’m so blessed in that I have my husband and kids to support me in moving forward and celebrating my new juicy self.

Recently I wrote an email to my list, called, “When it feels like your heart is breaking.” I shared a poem that my mother once gave me called, “Don’t Quit.” It’s my gift to you on this Independence Day. Remember according to the poem, it’s when things seem worst that you mustn’t quit!